A Bit of Respect Perhaps?
Family conflict
By: Justin Sherlock
My sister is 18 years old now and I have made it a point to do everything in power to keep her happy. I have gone out of the way to take blame for her and always do anything she asks of me. Now here’s the problem. Our mother moved away and left the car to me. At the same time she left the link card for me and my sister to split each month until the card expires. Well my sister decided that she was just going to go ahead and take the car. I was a little mad about it but I was able to let that go. Now she has decided not to split the link with me anymore evidently because she refused to give me the card. I understand that she needs it more than me but for the last two months she hasn’t so much as asked me if she could spend my half.At this point it isn’t about the money or the car but the respect that she gives me. I was a little hurt and I got angry and said some pretty awful things to her. I feel like a hypocrite because I always say sibling should cherish what they have before they’re gone.
I feel bad and want to apologize but now I can’t find the words. I don’t really know how to approach this situation because she is really the reasonable type anyway. Then I found out she blew a rod in the car so now the car is useless. I feel like that wouldn’t have happened if I had the car but who knows? What should I do? It seems like she doesn’t realize the hell I’ve gone through for her and then I get treated like dirt. I want to forgive and forget but now I’m afraid it’s a little too late. How do you cope with a stressor like this? I just want my sissy to love and respect me the way I thought she always did.
Well from an 18 year old girl’s point of view, I would sit down and talk to her about how you feel. Talk calmly and get your point across without trying to control her or sound like she is less than you. The last thing an 18 year old girl wants is someone who thinks they can control her life. Try to come to an agreement over the car and card that is fair to both of you and make sure she knows what you do for her and how much you love her, girls always need to here that whether it is from their father, boyfriend, or brother.
ReplyDeleteI know how it can be when you have a younger sister that gets everything they want. I have a sister who is 3 years younger than me and I would rather give her what she wants instead of getting in a fight with her. It is very annoying at time but I just constantly remind myself I do not want to start a fight with her. Your situation seems a lot more intense than mine. I would recommend that you talk to her and telling her it simply is not fair that she is taking your half. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWell I feel that your sister needs to apologize to you as well. I feel that if you have been showing her all of this respect and have been breaking your back to please her, then it no excuse to why she can’t do the same for you. By reading your story, I took out of this that your sister is taking advantage of the situation. She knows that you would do anything to make her happy so she has used that to her advantage. I feel that it’s never too late. Have you heard of the saying, “Better late, than never?” So I feel that you guys should have a talk and you should let her know how u feel.
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