Brother Where Art Thou
For those of you who have siblings out there, I wonder how many of you would say you can’t stand your brother or sister. Of course we probably don’t really mean that but say it only because we spend too much time in the same house. Well I can understand why many of you would feel that certainly, however what if the circumstances were reversed. What if instead of feeling annoyed that your little brother or sister is around, imagine feeling sad, depressed, or worried half of the time because you can’t see them?When it comes to extended and blended families, sometimes things can change and become complicated very quickly. This can sometimes mean certain members of the family get separated. (I have experienced this happen to my family firsthand a few times in my life unfortunately)
When my mother married and divorced a second time it was far more difficult to cope with than when she got divorced the first time. This is because she had my youngest brother Randy Van Tortat. Well long story short my mother moved to Florida recently which complicated things to the max. Randy’s father has custody of him and through some contorted form of gossip his father was able to come up with a reason to keep us completely separated. It wouldn’t have mattered what was said anyway I’m sure because truth and lies alike were going to be used against me just so I could be singled out. At least that’s how I feel.
Furthermore, Randy and I get to talk on the phone sometimes if we’re lucky. I wish I could actually be there with him face to face but that’s very unlikely right now. Sometime soon when he gets a couple years older we’ll be able to see each other whenever we want. I just wish there was an easier way to deal with this problem. I love all three of my amazing siblings and I want to be able to look after them whenever I want, especially the youngest.
More toward the point, for my readers who just can’t stand that stupid little brat who will never leave you alone; how do feel after reading my story? Maybe brothers and sisters aren’t so bad after all. To those of you who can relate to my brother and I, how do you cope with a situation like this? Just remember not to push your brothers and sisters too far away because when it comes to family, being too little too late could mean the difference of seeing them everyday or even getting the chance to hear their voice.
I am very guilty of getting annoyed with my siblings more times than I should. I have a sister and brother who are both younger than me. Sometimes it gets really annoying when they take my stuff or simply are acting immature. However, when it comes down to it I don’t know what I would do with out them. I love seeing them every day and hearing about their day. This blog post made me realize that I need to be thankful for my siblings and not take them for granted. I’m very sorry about your situation and hope it gets better!
ReplyDeleteI know exactly the feeling of being separated and torn by divorced family, I barely get to see my younger sister anymore since we live with separate parents and my older brother is deployed over in Afghanistan. We were raised that family is the most important value you have in your life and to never let it go. I stress and have sleepless nights over when my brother will come home and in what kind of condition he will return in to the states. I really hope you and your brother can figure out how to reunite a lot more as well as have time for lost time!
ReplyDeletei have always been really close to my brother. I see people sit and say how awful there siblings are. It makes you aprecciate what you really have. I feel awful for the situation you are in. Hopefully everthing will work out for you.
ReplyDeleteThis is really sad. I have an older brother than I hadn't seen in eleven years! Then, one day he searched me on facebook and now we talk all the time. Just a few months ago, I moved out of my parents house and now live on my own. Me and my sister would always get in arguments, and she would tell me that should could not wait for me to get out of the house. Well now, they live forty five minutes away, and my sister cherishes the times she can see me, as do I. In the long run, things do work out. Just think about my brother an I!
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this subject very well. I myself have four sisters and one brother and we fight like crazy, but i love them to death. We have a love and hate relationship. Recently we have been seperated due to family issues. I wish that we could all be together but i feel that this is the best way to be. Especially since we are all of the age and either in high school or college. I agree. there is nothing like brother or sister love.
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