Family Conflict
My Dad’s an Ass
I awoke one morning last week to the phone ringing in my grandparent’s basement. It was my father at the other end, drunk as freaking heck. I haven’t spent a whole lot of time with my dad since I moved out like six years ago and he’s never really seemed like a loving father if you catch my drift. Anyway moving right along, I didn’t get two words in before he starts screaming into the phone at me. He was saying it was my entire fault that he and his wife got divorced and that I was about to be responsible for him and his newest girlfriend breaking up. He said a lot of other things too that didn’t have anything to do with his relationships. Just past events that he randomly was able to conjure up and use as fuel for his fire against me. He continued to tell me how I was responsible for ruining everything in his life for the last five or six years and then wanted to fight me. I can’t be sure what exactly happened to him but I definitely believe that my father hates me and has hated me for some time because even when I was able to find time to visit him he also treated me like shit. Is it just because he’s always drunk or may I actually play a role in his unhappiness. I know most would say he needs to stop drinking but it has been this way for quite some time. I haven’t spoken to him since and it really seems like things are falling apart and I really don’t have time for this stuff. I feel like I need to focus more on me right now but the more I do just that it seems like the relationships in my family are failing more and more by the day.
You don’t choose the family you were born into, but you must realize who count vs who are just a donor to your existence. My parent got a divorce about 6 years ago, and my father married in less than a year after to a wicked woman. My parents made sure to tell me and my siblings that it wasn’t our fault for the divorce, it is never a child’s fault. Divorce is simply two human beings that have grown apart and needing to separate to make a better life for their children. So just remember when his name pops back up on your phone, it was a choice your parents made together to get a divorce.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend that has a dad similar to this, except he calls him his sperm donor because he never acted like a father. I personally think that no parent should ever blame their children for their unhappiness, or divorce, or anything really. I have many friends that have jerks for a dad, and all I can say is that if they keep hurting you, physically or emotionally, don't waste your time because no deserves that. I have had family issues with my dad, but in the end, after not talking for two years, everything was pushed aside and we realized we were being immature for fighting. Nothing will ever be your fault when it comes to his relationships, maybe next time say something if you already haven't. He may be your dad, but show him that he cannot talk to you like that.
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